No more good men?
In the past I use to take offense, but now I laugh when I see women posting comments online about there being no good men available, or hear women talking about how hard it is to find a good man out there. That’s an incredible generalization for anyone to make when considering that we live on a planet that has several billion people. Several billion people equals several billion opportunities to find the right one.
I have no problems admitting that many of my brothers (men) have their issues with dealing women. Pride, insecurities, greed, selfishness, impulsiveness, not knowing how to communicate, and simply not being good at understanding women all play a huge part in why so many men have a difficult time with dealing with women. I will never deny that most men have a lot of work to do in order to be better when it comes to dealing with women.
From early on in my life I’ve always been comfortable around women. In fact, probably a little too comfortable. I’ve always had more female friends than I’ve had male friends. What can I say other than that I LOVE women. Over the years I’ve had the opportunity to see first hand how the female brain works. I’ve studied it, and have learned a lot. My conclusion: ya’ll are CRAZY!!!! Ok ok ok, I only half mean that.
All jokes aside, what I’ve really learned is that most women spend years of their lives investing in bad situations. Some will go from one bad situation to another while others will spend years trying to make one bad situation work. The perplexing part about this is that you ladies will figure out early on that the guy you’re getting involved with isn’t right for you; yet, you still invest time and energy into the relationship in hopes that you can make it work. You ignore the signs that the guy isn’t right for you. You make excuses for all the things that he does that are trifling, ignorant, or just plan stupid. You’ll even take the blame for why you’re not happy with him or the situation and with each passing moment that you keep him around you commit yourself more and more to the bad situation until either one of you can’t take it no more and end the relationship. Then you carry the emotional luggage from that relationship on to the next relationship. The kicker is that you usually end up picking someone even worse for you. Again, I am speaking about what I learned from my personal experiences with my female friends from over the years.
Ladies, I truly and whole heartedly love you and I want to see every last one of you be happy. I need for you to let go of the idea that there aren’t any good men out there. I need for you to stop seeking out relationships that are projects. If you see qualities in a man that concern you then leave that him alone. Give him the opportunity to find that women who wants the very qualities that concern you. I want you to figure out what it is you truly want for yourself and out of life. If you can figure those twothings out then finding the right man will be much easier. Do not allow loneliness to cause you to get involved with someone. I’m here to tell you that the cure for loneliness is not grabbing the first available person. What’s worse than feeling lonely? Being with someone and still feeling lonely. If you need company then re-connect with friends and family, go out on causal dates (casual meaning that it’s more plutonic than romantic), and visit the nearest Adult store to purchase the necessary supplies to take care of certain other needs if you have to. I’ve had quite a few female friends make terrible choices in men because they were lonely and desperate.
I’ve been single for a long time and it’s not because I like running the streets or fear commitment. It’s because I refuse to settle for anything less than being head over heals in love. There are lot of areas in life in which we have to settle. Love is not one of them. If I’m going to share my life, my space, and my air with a woman then that woman need to be exactly what I’ve been searching for and I definitely want to be everything she is searching for. You should feel the same way I feel. If you didn’t before then now is your chance!
Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Don’t be insane. Accept when you make a mistakes, then learn and grow from them. But don’t blame the whole male species as not being good just because you don’t know how to pick right.
Thank you for reading and for any responses and remember if you need a little direction Just Ask Aaron