Ask Aaron – Spoon feeding…we ARE adults aren’t we?

Many years ago when I was very inexperienced in life and was dealing with the heart break of losing my girl friend of three years I found myself out on a date with a very lovely NFL Cheerleader. The date was fun and we ended up back at her apartment. One thing lead to another and much to my surprise we were about to take it all the way. As we got extremely close to the point of no return she whispered to me “I don’t want to share you.”I stopped what I was doing and asked her what did she mean by that. She said “well, we’re not in a relationship and if we’re going to do what we’re about to do then I don’t like the idea of you being with other women. I don’t want to share you with anyone else.”

Now, I wasn’t seeing anyone else because after all, I was still very heart broken over my ex and this girl was the first girl I had even had a date with so it wasn’t like I was running the streets, or even played the role like I was. However, I understood where she was coming from, told her that I couldn’t commit to her because I wasn’t at a point in my life that I could do that, and I stopped the activities. It was really late so I started drifting off to sleep and after about 15 minutes she woke me up and said “let’s do this.” (insert the fireworks )

Although the activities from that night were fun, why I’ll never forget that night is because I learned a valuable lesson. That night I learned the importance of being honest with women and what can happen when you give a woman the opportunity to decide for herself.

Fellas, I’m here to tell you that although most women won’t openly admit this, they appreciate and want sex just as much, if not more than we do. The difference between them and us is that they work very hard to keep their desires for sex in check until they find a situation that they’re comfortable with. There is no need to spoon feed (tell someone whatever it is you think they want to hear) in order to get what you want. You may benefit in the short term, but in the long run it will cost you dearly. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, think about the insecure and distrustful woman you’ve had to deal with. Where do you think that behavior came from? Men like to joke about how women are crazy and unstable but I really do believe that a big reason why so many women act the way they do is because they’ve been spoon fed  by men who eventually hurt them soon after they got what they wanted.

Fellas I’m telling you that if you want to have any easier way of living do not be a spoon feeder. Learn to be honest with yourself, and with the women that you deal with. The end result will be that you’ll have much healthier relationships with the women you deal with. Being open and honest with what you want will get you much farther with the people you deal with then “spoon feeding.” If you don’t believe me, then ask your best female friend and see what she says. If you can’t be honest and let these women make informed decisions than take yourself out the game.

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